My sister and I were raised in a Christian family that prohibited birth control. I have grown out of this, but my sister believes that birth control is as bad as abortion. So she keeps having more and more and more and more kids with her husband, and her health is quickly going down hill (Her kids are starting to have issues too) but she won't listen to her doctor's advice about STOPPING. It's driving me insane. Every time I turn around she's pregnant again and sick. Please help! What should I do for her?
Answer:
well in a loving way tell her you are worried. explain if something happens to her all these kids are gonna be left with out a mom. Suggest she try using Fertility Awareness combined with the Rhythm Method. This is an accepted method of the church. Obviously it's not 100% (nothing is because of human error), and to use this you have to really educate yourself on it and get to know your body, but it is really pretty effective IF used correctly. Because of the sittuation this is a good (probably the best at this point cause something is def better then nothing!!) option for her, since she refuses to use any other method of birth control. It will give her more control rather than her being helpless and pregnant (and sick) all the time.
(I'm surprised she has anything (time/energy) left in her to to do what it takes to get pregnant!!)
I have achived pregnancy and also avoided pregnancy using the Fertility Awareness and Rhythm Method. Have her look it up to learn more, it will teach you her alot about her cycle and maybe even empower her to feel she can be more in control of her body (and still in line with what she thinks the church beleives). I mean really shes the only one who can make these choices but maybe this will help her see there are other ways out there then having baby after baby.
DISCLAIMER:
To all the teens, and ppl who have not thoroughly researched this: If you aren't prepared for a baby I hugely recommend using another back up method to prevent. (When I was doing this method I was married and didn't want to take hormones cause I was nursing but I didn't mind if we got pregnant on accident.) The thing is that really you can get pregnant anytime... your body can drop eggs when its not supposed to, and mens sperm can live longer than they are supposed to. There is no 100% on this and depending soley on this (or any one method) to prevent getting pregnant is not a great idea if you aren't ready for it to not work! Women may not realize their cycle is off or dont account for how stress factors, medication, illness can effect your cycle and throw it off.
Only she can save herself. It's her life and her choices, no matter how painful it is for you to watch!
I am sorry that you have to watch her go through that, but she is the only one that can do anything about it. You have tried and that is all you can do. You should support her and never give up on her, but only she can make the decision to stop having kids.
Sorry to hear about your sister. Unfortunately, if she won't listen to you or more importantly her own doctor, she's not likely to stop. I hope it doesn't happen, but it sounds like the only way she'll stop is if she's forced to have an emergency hysterectomy or something of the sort due to her health. You might talk to her church leader (reverand/pastor) or someone else she is close with and trusts from the church and ask them to speak to her about it because of her poor health.
why dont you bring her to a community center...in there they would give her an advice about safe family planning.birth control isn't as bad as abortion...birth control is about how could be your family live life without worries and hassles.having alot of kids is a huge problem not only for the parents but also for the kids,of course you need to budget your money for everything...for their schools and everything...so i suggest you to help them with this otherwise this will be the biggest problem for them in the future...
Try finding more information about her condition and how having more kids is not good for her. Get more information about her religious belief if you don't know them already. Ask her husband about his opinion. Let them know that God care about people who care about themselves. Explain her how important is to care about herself so she can take care of this children. If she keeps on having more kids and she gets so sick and die who's gonna take care of the children. Tell her that sometimes there are exceptions to the rule, like in her case. In the world that we live one cannot have too many kids. No matter how much money we have but the individual attention of every child.This is important too, not only her beliefs but her children best interest.
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